Why So Many Women Hide Menopause Symptoms — and Why You Don’t Have To
Many women tell me the same thing: “I thought it was just me.”
That’s why I was so struck by BBC technology editor Zoe Kleinman’s recent article about masking menopause symptoms. Her experience mirrors what countless women quietly live with every day.
For many, menopause isn’t just a physical change — it’s something they feel they need to hide. Hot flushes, poor sleep, anxiety, brain fog or low mood are often minimised or pushed through, especially at work or in social situations. But masking symptoms can come at a real cost to health and wellbeing.
What Does “Masking” Menopause Mean?
Masking means putting on a brave face while struggling underneath.
It might look like:
· keeping a fan nearby and pretending everything’s fine
· writing endless lists to cope with memory lapses
· avoiding social situations when symptoms flare
· telling yourself you just need to “get on with it”
These strategies are understandable — but they’re exhausting. The constant effort of hiding symptoms can leave women feeling depleted, overwhelmed, and increasingly burnt out.
Why Do Women Hide Menopause Symptoms?
There are several reasons this happens — and none of them are a personal failure.
Stigma still exists. Many women worry about being judged, dismissed, or seen as less capable.
Lack of information is common. Despite menopause affecting half the population, most women feel poorly prepared for it.
Workplace pressure plays a big role. Many women fear symptoms will affect how they’re perceived at work — or even their job security.
Healthcare support can feel hard to access. Symptoms are often under-reported, meaning many women don’t realise safe, effective treatments are available.
The Hidden Impact on Health and Daily Life
Constantly pushing through symptoms can take a toll.
Women often report:
· worsening anxiety or low mood
· increased brain fog and poor concentration
· disrupted sleep and ongoing fatigue
· reduced confidence and social withdrawal
Over time, this can affect relationships, work, and overall quality of life.
For neurodivergent women, such as those with ADHD or autism, menopause symptoms may feel particularly intense and harder to manage — and support is especially important.
Moving from Coping to Feeling Better
You don’t have to manage menopause alone — and you don’t have to suffer in silence.
Start by talking about it. Whether with a healthcare professional, trusted friend, or colleague, being open is often the first step toward support.
Seek medical advice. Effective treatments are available, including hormone therapy and non-hormonal options. Booking a menopause-focused appointment can make a big difference.
Track your symptoms. Keeping a simple record can help you notice patterns and feel more confident discussing symptoms with a clinician.
Ask for workplace support if you need it. Small adjustments — such as flexible working, temperature control, or quiet spaces — can have a big impact.
Look after your overall wellbeing. Gentle movement, good sleep habits, nutrition, stress management, and support networks all play a role.
You Deserve Support During Menopause
Masking menopause symptoms may feel like the easiest option, but it often comes at the expense of your health and wellbeing.
Menopause is not something to “just put up with.” With the right information, medical care, and support, many women feel like themselves again — or even better.
If you’re struggling, help is available, and you deserve to feel heard.
